This cautionary tale is worth digesting. When my father died two years ago in a hospital near my home, but an hour away from his, I left the hospital and drove straight to his hometown because he had a dear friend there. She and my dad were both elderly and they cared about each other, and she was not with family. I wanted her to be told the news by me, and in person. But in the hour it took me to get to her, someone else from their hometown, who had arrived at the hospital after we were all gone, took it upon himself to call her and deliver the news. He didn't need social media. His phone - and lack of consideration - outran my car.
Frankly, I was furious. I don't remember using words like hierarchy. I do remember using words like jackass.